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Chances are, if you've been chosen as a best man, you know the groom pretty well. You're also aware by now that you'll be expected to make a best man speech - a toast - at the wedding reception. To help you prepare for the speech, here are just a few things you should remember.

*Plan it! Don't make it up on the fly. Even the most quick-witted and glib of people (like you, of course!) can go numb when they're put on the spot. Take a lesson from the famous Mark Twain: "It usually takes me more than three weeks to plan a good impromptu speech."

Even if you don't feel like writing the whole thing down, at least take the time to jot down a few key points and phrases.

*Humor is good, but don't forget to be serious. Sure those are conflicting elements, but it's important to remember. If you're not a little bit funny, you could wind up boring the wedding guests.

But with that in mind, it's crucial to remember that your best man speech is to be a tribute to the couple and their future. The bride and groom are taking their marriage seriously. They need you to acknowledge and respect that. Sarcasm might be funny and enjoyable in the right circumstances, but please remember that it is NEVER appropriate in a wedding speech.

*Keep it brief. Please don't ramble on. Practice at least once in front of one other person!if their eyes start to glaze over, find something to cut!

*Careful with the anecdotes. Whatever you do, avoid telling stories about old wives and girlfriends, and avoid reminding all the guests about something particularly embarrassing. This won't endear you to your friend's new wife. You want your buddy's wife to like you at least a little, or you won't be seeing him much after the wedding!

*Talk about something you like or admire about the bride-- if it's appropriate! Don't forget, you want to be endearing yourself to her.

*Above all, be sincere. You were chosen as best man for a reason. Your best man speech will be remembered with gratitude if you keep these points in mind and share in the joy of your friend's happiness.